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Did your girlfriend break up with you? I have been through it, and so have countless other guys, so you are not alone. In fact, it may surprise you to know that women initiate 75% of all breakups. What does that tell you? That guys have to deal with being dumped more frequently than girls do!
This becomes particularly troublesome because men are supposed to be \”rocks.\” Men don\’t show their emotion — men are supposed to \”be men and take it!\” Women, on the other hand, are free to talk to all their friends about their relationships — even the articles they read, the TV shows they watch, the movies they go to, all likely deal with relationships.
Of course the truth is much different. When your girlfriend breaks up with you, it hurts! After all, men have feelings just as women do.
Generally speaking men crave stability in a relationship even more than women do. Most men cling to the idea of a partner that will stand by them through thick and thin.
So, yes it hurts. If your girlfriend breaks up with you it is painful, but it is also time to realize you have to survive and get back to normal living.
Women naturally seem to be able to express their feelings. But with men this is often difficult. Still, you need to find a way to let your emotions out. Bottling them up is dangerous. Maybe you enjoy music and can write a song that expresses how you feel.
The next thing is to get her out of your life. That means ridding your home of anything that is hers. If there are items she owns, give them back to her. If other items remind you of her – box them up and put them away in the attic or in the basement. It is vital that you clean your environment from emotional triggers that will make you think about her.
If your ex calls you, let her know you need your space. You wish not to talk to her. You need quiet, time and distance in order to heal.
The next thing you need to do is get busy and get active. Get involved in sports — join a bowling league or a softball team. Volunteer at your church, or offer to be a big brother. The thing to do is get up, get out and get active.
Don\’t communicate with her. What would be the point of cleaning your house of her reminders if you are still going to talk to her? Eliminate any problem that might require you to talk to her.
In time you will meet someone special – and when that happens you will finally get the needed closure. Then you will realize you\’re no longer answering the question: \”Did your girlfriend break up with you?\” She will be in the past and you will no longer think of her that way.
Only after you have done this for a comfortable period of time do you want to enter the dating scene again. Then, once you do start dating, keep it to casual dates in the beginning. Meet different girls and take your time getting comfortable.
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Did you think you would never be asked did your girlfriend break up with you? And yet here you are!
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