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This becomes particularly troublesome because men are supposed to be \”rocks.\” Men don\’t show their emotion — men are supposed to \”be men and take it!\” Women, on the other hand, are free to talk to all their friends about their relationships — even the articles they read, the TV shows they watch, the movies they go to, all likely deal with relationships.
People might think men aren\’t hit as hard by a break up because they are supposed to be stronger.
While that may be the illusion out there in society, the truth is when your girlfriend breaks up with you it\’s painful!
Generally speaking men crave stability in a relationship even more than women do. Most men cling to the idea of a partner that will stand by them through thick and thin.
It\’s true that some men may be sidetracked by a fling, but in truth men want to be with someone who will be there in good times and bad times. In fact, some schools of thought suggest men place more value on a stable relationship than women do.
For some men this is difficult because they tend to hold their feelings inside. Women are more likely to express their feelings to other women. Even if this is true, it is still important for men to let their emotions out, because bottling them up can be dangerous both to your emotional well being and your physical health. So find ways to express your feelings — perhaps writing a song or putting your feelings down on paper may help.
Then it is time to remove her from your life. Any of her items that are in your home should be given back to her or removed. It is vital that you get rid of any emotional triggers that will make you think about her.
Bottled up emotions can be dangerous — you need to find ways to express your feelings. Women often do this by talking with their friends about their feelings. Many men do not feel comfortable doing that. Still, there must be a way to let out your emotions. Maybe music is your thing — you could write a song, or sing songs that express your feelings. After all, some of the greatest songs of all time involve heartache.
Cut off all communication with her. Why clean the house of her things if you are still going to talk to her? Settle up with her if you owe her money, thus eliminating reasons you may be forced to communicate with her.
If your ex calls you, let her know you need your space. You wish not to talk to her. You need quiet, time and distance in order to heal.
After some time you may feel like entering the dating scene again. When you do, take your time. Keep your dates casual in the beginning. Take time to be with different girls. Be generous and kind to them, even if you realize you are not hitting it off.
In time you will meet someone special – and when that happens you will finally get the needed closure. Then you will realize you\’re no longer answering the question: \”Did your girlfriend break up with you?\” She will be in the past and you will no longer think of her that way.
Now it is time to start activity. You need to get out of the house and get active. Join a softball league; play a pick-up game of basketball. Volunteer to be a \”big brother\” or get involved in a church group or exercise group. Get out and get moving.
Eventually you will meet someone you care about. Once that happens, you will get the needed closure of your old relationship.
If Gina does it right, I have no doubt Tom will take the bait and pursue her. Gina\’s job is to make Tom think it\’s his idea.
You can call it sexist — but that\’s the way it works folks. It\’s been that way for centuries and it doesn\’t look like it\’s going to change anytime soon. If Gina does her job well, she will soon find that instead of asking how she can get back with her ex-boyfriend Tom — Tom will be asking me how he can get back with Gina!
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